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[quote=Anonymous]I'm the pp who said it is part of my ADHD.

I have a very active and constantly changing job so it kind of works well for me.  I also have lists at work.  I think I also put a lot of my brain power into work, so when I'm home it tends to shut off more.

As for the ADHD thing part, it is definitely procrastination and not a resistance to being told what to do.  Like I said, DH has brought it up before and I have made a big effort to change.  I really wish I could say why my brain does what it does.  For instance, I could vacuum the living room and my brain would say  "just leave the vacuum there, you can get it later" and then I'll go off and do something else.  I have to stop and say "no, put it away now".

Another example happened recently.  I was reorganizing our bathroom and getting rid of towels.  I was about halfway through reorganizing when I looked at the area I store my make up and said "hmm...I should really go through my make up".  So I stopped the towels and started going through my makeup.  As I went through my makeup, I realized my makeup brushes needed to be cleaned.  So I stopped going through my makeup and cleaned my brushes.  Which led to me noticing that the counter tops were messy.  So I put the make up brushes down and started cleaning the countertop.  I had to process in my brain after "Ok, finish the brushes.  Then put away the make up.  Then finish the towels."  Otherwise I would have just walked out of the bathroom with it being half done and remembered it hours early.  Also hence why I have lists.

I wish I had a good answer for how to help your husband.  I changed because I know it bothered DH and I don't want to do things that upset him. [/quote]

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