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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FYI, all of these responses, this why there is no village and why every woman is on her own.

OP, a paci at 3 for bed is really bad for the teeth and mouth.  She needs to be weaned from it.  Starting now.  [/quote]

OP is obviously already aware the pacifier isn't great or she wouldn't be reluctant to use it in public. She is not actually in need of advice on pacifier usage.

No one needs a "village" of judgmental advice-givers who want to weigh in on your every parenting move. You can get that for free from your own family. [b]The village is supposed to be about help and support not unsolicited advice and scaring 3 yr olds in grocery stores[/b].[/quote]

The village is for both.  But since women today will not accept the latter, they do not receive the former.  And then they complain about it (on other threads).  [/quote]

Agreed.  I actually suspect the women were trying to *help* OP by speaking about it to the daughter… put the idea in the girl’s head so Mommy doesn’t have to be the bad guy.[/quote]

This is misguided. Someone tell the old ladies that approaching a stranger's kid in public to whisper things at them and make them cry is not "helping" -- it's creepy.

Also mom (and dad) ultimately have to be the bad guy when it comes to something like this. Are those old ladies going to hanging around for the next few weeks as the 3 yr old freaks out over losing the pacifier? Of course not. This would be different if this was the kid's grandmother or a family friend. These women were total strangers which is precisely why their actions freaked the kid out.

Those of you making excuses for this are being ridiculous. The only time it's acceptable to try and "parent" a stranger's kid is if the child is in danger of getting hurt. Not because you are worried about the impacts of pacifier use on long-term dentition. What's next -- you going to start walking up to 10 yr olds and telling them to stop slouching or they'll have longterm posture problems? It's none of your business.[/quote]

Oh, we already know.  We don't.  It's only kinder older folk who try to help out by addressing young children directly.  Eventually, they will be gone and no one will address young children directly.  They will be both afraid of strangers and contemptuous of them, as taught by their parents.  [/quote]

Dramatic much?

I know it's hard to imagine that everyone will actually be okay without your meddling but it's true. Also it's weird you think it's "kindly" for two older women to accost a small child in a store and tell her that what she is doing is "wrong." That's not kind it's weird.[/quote]

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