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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve been married to him for decades and my mother has always thought he’s the greatest thing since sliced bread. Everything he’s ever done has been impressive to her. Don’t get me wrong, I share her sentiments, obviously, but the way she seems to undermine me in favors of amplifying him has always bothered me, and it’s recently escalated, or, I’m noticing it more. Two latest examples:

My mother and I are both avid readers and frequently discuss books. I read a lot of nonfiction and often take deep dives when something interests me. She’s never been into nonfiction and would always tell me she doesn’t know how I read books like that. DH recently got really interested in a specific time period and has been reading stacks of books on the topic. At Christmas my mother noticed the books and praised DH for his “smart mind”, how “impressive” it is he is so interested in research.

We also recently finished a small remodel in our guest bedroom. I did the majority of the work, from planning to actually decoration, like painting, hanging decor/blinds/lighting. When my mom got here and was unpacking, she kept praising DH on a job well done, telling him he did great work. He kept telling her, no, your daughter did most of the work, I only helped when I could. But she kept ignoring him, or rejecting his words.

Why does she do this? [/quote]It’s sort of like the kid behaving well at school and coming home and acting out at home. You are a safe place. Your DH is a flight risk.  Better to stay on his good side. [/quote]

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