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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Find an inexpensive venue, like a historic house.  Serve only one red and one white wine, with a modest champagne for the toast only; offer bottled water for the non-drinkers, and perhaps one diet and one regular soda option.  Instead of a sit-down meal, have canapes/hors d'oeuvres.  A small floral centerpiece on each table is sufficient decoration.  Hire a regular bar band for $600-$800 which plays the kind of music you like, skipping the expensive wedding bands which can play 100s of songs, wear tuxedos, have 8 members and charge $$$$.  Do limit the guest list to people who are truly important to you.

Finally, remember that [b]the wedding is an opportunity for people to spend time with you celebrating your marriage.  That doesn't require that people be entertained in lavish style, just that they be present.  Anything you can offer in the way of hospitality is nice, but is not the main point of the occasion[/b].    [/quote]

NP. Please re-read the bold above, OP. This point is so true, and gets totally forgotten in the "huge wedding, keeping up with what friends did at their wedding, everyone [i]expects[/i] open bar/band/dancing" culture we've somehow allowed to develop. Put away the bridal magazines and sit with your fiance and think hard about what you truly value. We had a wedding with 50 guests, a simple buffet lunch at a small hotel, wine by the glass with lunch for any who wanted that (many of our guests were non-drinkers anyway, and at a lunch, people are less inclined to think they need or want lots to drink). Then a lot of time afterward just talking to the guests and they talked to each other! I still hear things like "How is your sister-in-law? I remember meeting her at your wedding, is she still doing [activity X]"....

That night, the younger guests all went to the lobby of the hotel where many were staying, and we went there (we were in another hotel that first night, leaving for honeymoon the next day). Those who wanted drinks got them, some folks ordered apps for the group, it was a very low-key hangout. No PRESSURE.

A friend had a tiny wedding in a tiny chapel at a historic site, then a small reception at a nearby historic hotel with lots of dancing, all relatively inexpensive. I think that friends of the couple created the playlist for the dance music because the friends knew what meaningful songs the couple would enjoy. No band, no big guest list, no sit-down dinner but lots of creative, delicious heavy hors d'oeuvres. I'm sure it was nowhere near $25k either.[/quote]

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