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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think divorce is shameful even in situations where there isn't divorce but I also think that if you are divorced you might read shame into certain things people say on here that really aren't shaming comments. Like none of the following are shaming and if you feel shame as a divorced person when you read them it has more to do with your own feelings and experience around your divorce than what anyone else is thinking:

"I personally would not date a divorced person because I don't want the baggage."

"It can be hard to maintain friendships with a family where there is a divorce -- if the parents aren't on speaking terms or there is conflict then it's hard to not get dragged into it even during something simple like scheduling a playdate."

"I feel frustrated that my brother's divorce functionally ended my friendship with my SIL and sometimes I resent him for not being able to work it out."

Some of these comments are judgmental and all of them are about the speaker's feelings. But they aren't *shaming* -- they are just people talking about how other people's divorces impact them. It doesn't mean those divorces were not the right thing. It's just people describing their own personal experience with divorce as someone who isn't part of the divorced couple. The reality is that divorce impacts other people and they have opinions about it. You just have to accept this and deal with it.[/quote]

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