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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an 12 and 13 year old. Boy and girl. Both kids enjoy hanging out with their friends, playing outside with neighbors and engaging in an independent activities. They have always been more independent and a little bit more socially mature than other children their age.  The phase that is killing me now right now is that they do not want to hang out with me or do family stuff together. It is a real struggle. Especially this summer since I am not working and have time at home. I do not want to sit at home and do nothing but often times my children this summer want to just stay at home, organize their rooms, watch movies, bake etc. I  want them to go to museums with me, or to the pool or mini golf or whatever. We have been doing these things maybe once or twice a week together but often times they do not want to go.  I would like to do these things every day instead of just sitting at home.  These are the things I enjoy and instead of just staying home I have been engaging some of these activities by myself but I feel incredibly guilty. Do I just make the children go with me? They are fine at home and enjoy this time and like I said, they get rides from friends to go other places with their friends and will play outside and ride bikes with the neighbors that are also home. No, they are not involved in any camps.  Is this normal.  Should I force time together?[/quote]

I def "force" family time but force is in quotes b/c my kid generally enjoys them and time with us. This is not b/c I or my DH are special but we've always done a LOT of things together throughout childhood and growing up. It's understood DC is part of a family and family spends time together. Now that DC is older, we make a lot of space for activities, friend time, etc. so not spending as much time together (sniff, sniff) but that is what they are supposed to be doing at 16, 17, 18, and up. But, yes, we still do things we all enjoy: time on the water, SUP'ing, waterparks/themeparks, working out, movies and concerts, etc. [/quote]

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