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My relative was widowed in her early 40s and tried OLD (never had done it before). She got interest from a guy who seemed smart and interesting and they arranged a first date. She was a bit nervous about the whole OLD thing and mentioned that, before this date. I felt a weird vibe about it all, and hopped online right away.

Within 90 seconds I had pulled up news articles in my state that he had been prosecuted a couple of times as a landlord for defrauding tenants, not maintaining properties, etc., and then the trail just stopped -- at exactly the time he'd moved to my relative's state. He had just left my state to avoid further prosecution and in her state was presenting himself as a property owner, etc.. Back to his same horrible landlord s**t, I'm sure. He hadn't even bothered to change his name in any way, and all this legal stuff was online!

She immediately canceled the date and halted OLD. I do NOT blame her at all. She's a smart woman but just hadn't dated in ages, and didn't think to Google before a casual, public first date. She was still reeling a bit, even a few years on, after losing her DH, and just wanted to meet someone nice and interesting.

The moral is, always dig around online even if they seem fine on the surface. This guy was scum, and evaded prosecution by moving around. Could have been a great date and nice to her, perhaps, but morally was a cesspit.

Fortunately my relative met a wonderful man and they are now in a serious relationship. They met when he volunteered for a charitable organization for which she is a staff member. The old-fashioned way--common interests, shared values. OLD sucks and is a meat market full of dubious people. I know, I know, many here will protest that they found lovely partners through OLD and I do not doubt them, I just think that between stories here of "He/she expectd sex right away" and my relative's experience with Mr. Landlord, it's just better to live your life, get involved in what matters to you, and maybe find someone that way. Or be comfortable with being a single adult. [/quote]

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