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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a working mom with two little kids, one of whom has special needs. I love my DH dearly but I am having this recurring issue where he will not allow me to have alone time, basically ever. No matter what I am trying to do, whether it is tending to the kids (and trying to listen to them, talk to them, etc), working from home, washing dishes, attempting to listen to a podcast, reading a book, he is terrible at noticing that I am doing something else and letting me do it. Example is when I am working from home, he will talk in the room and just start talking at me about whatever topic floats into his head. Or I finally sit down after getting the kids to bed, open my book, and he starts talking.

It is driving me nuts. He does not take well to me kindly saying, hey, I am in the middle of something - can we talk later?

My work days and time with my kids I am "on" pretty much all the time, and I need more quiet and time to relax and unwind without focusing on whatever he wants to talk about. I am pretty good about making time for him but this feels like an immature and frankly kind of selfish behavior. In the meantime, if he has a TV show he wants to watch, he makes a big production about "hey this is my TV night" and goes and watches it. It has not always been like this and I am honestly not sure where this comes from. His friends kind of suck so I think he lacks people to talk to maybe?

AITA for being annoyed by this? Any tips for dealing with it? [/quote]

Working from home: put an at work do not disturb sign up, let him know you are doing a task that needs concentration and he can text you if he needs something urgently.

Reading a book/ listening to a podcast: let him know a few times in a row, I had a long day with the kids and I need to unwind. I’m just going to do X but maybe we can make a time to hang out later/tomorrow/etc.

Washing dishes: just chat with him. I think if you don’t want to because you’re burnt out you need to say, I’m super burnt out, I do want to hear you but I can’t right now.

Everyone has different space needs. He doesn’t seem to be reading you well. However my STBX was like you — didn’t want to talk with me, ever. We were not like you in that we didn’t have date nights or other times to connect carved out. But I think this might be a mismatch in your expectations of what “home” is. I would not feel comfortable if I couldn’t start a conversation with someone hanging out at home some of the time.[/quote]

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