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Just out of curiousity:  what country is your husband from?  I'm not from the US originally either--but I can't offhand think of a country other than the US that encourages their children to move away at 18.  So I don't think it's cultural, but rather some resentement on the part of your husband--whoreally does come across like a jerk here.[/quote]

I was wondering the same thing!   [/quote]

This is true. My husband was sent for by his father when he was 15, so he has spent more of his life here than his country. A year after being here, his father wanted to ship him back and he had to leave his father's house in the middle of the night to go stay with a relative because he wanted to stay in this country. He was on his own from the time he was 18, working, going to school and paying his own rent, so I guess that's why he thinks my son should be off on his own doing the same. I keep reminding him that this situation is different and I would not put my son out simply because my husband was on his own at the same age. Yes, my husband does sound like an ass after reading what I wrote and the responses. [/quote]

So his father was clearly an ass.  One would think that would give him more empathy, not less.  I feel really sorry for your sons.  How can you be sure he won't be like this when your others are older?  Don't set a bad precedent for them, because they ARE watching.  And your oldest sounds like he's been through enough.  It IS your job as his mother to help him find his way, which does not equate to coddling him.  Just to helping him.

We would all still like to know what country, though.  (Again, not US born either--so not prone to anti-foreign judgment).[/quote]

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