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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]It’s a sucky, unfair situation to be sure. But like others said, their life isn’t as perfect as it seems. My ex is still with his affair partner, but our older son wants nothing to do with them. My ex’s family still considers me their daughter and visits me regularly, has even invited me on vacations with them post divorce. I can’t imagine how awkward it must be for my ex’s affair partner,,but that’s what she signed up for.

OP here. Do you have a new partner now? If so, do you bring them around your ex-in-laws?[/quote]

I do have a new partner, but my kids haven’t even met him.  I have zero interest in cohabiting or blending families until my kids are out of the house, and same for my partner (also has kids about the same age).  The divorce and blended family on my ex’s side was just too damaging to my kids….  My older son feels like his dad chose his AP and [b]her much younger kids over him, and he’s been struggling with anger about it for years now.  [/b]

My ex in laws know that I am dating and they are excited about it and always ask to meet him, but they respect my choices given my kids’ situation.

My ex MIL is usually ends up in tears when she brings up her son, and has been trying to apologize for him ever since it happened, saying that she didn’t raise him this way and that she feels like it’s her fault she didn’t raise him with more integrity.  I always reassure her that it has nothing to do with her, that I’ve forgiven him and moved on and she should, too.

Forgiveness does not mean friendship.  I only communicate with my ex about logistics related to the kids.  Nothing else, ever.  It’s worked for us, in that we are very effective coparents and can totally be at events together and such with zero drama.

His AP seems afraid of me.  Not sure why, and I also dont really care.  The few times I have seen her since discovering the affair years ago, she’s high-tailed it in the other direction.  Meh. Whatever. I don’t blame her or have anger toward her.  She’s nice to my kids as far as I can tell, and that’s all I really care about.  [/quote]

I am in a similar situation. My teen son 14 hates his mother down the same reason. However I try to provide him stability on my side and so far it is working. [/quote]

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