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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a DW, I wish I was less empathetic towards DH. Then I wouldn't be bitter. I have shown DH way more empathy than he has shown me. And I kept hoping he will match my ability to empatbize with him. I should have matched his instead.

DH is good most of the time. He works from a place of obligation and expectation and not necessarily because he is empathetic. This works very well with predictable events.

However, if the situation is  "outside the box", he tends to be clueless and careless. He cannot properly communicate his thoughts and would say the most selfish things or just completely bail. I have spent too many years excusing these exceptions. After 15 years of marriage the exceptions are now a pattern of behavior, and I am now bitter and hesitant to trust him with anything that is not predictable. Everything else is good, but it's lonely being married to someone i feel i cannot have difficult/ tough conversations with.
 
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Wow - know that you’re not alone.  Lack of emotional intimacy can be very painful.  [/quote]

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