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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So she has issues with you screaming at your children for… being children, and you don’t care to change anything about your actions, thoughts, behaviours to eliminate this? Because you ‘know yourself’?

I tend to think the people who are most opposed to therapy are the ones who need it the most. Maybe you just haven’t found the right one, a male therapist may be more beneficial for you. [/quote]

Who said I scream at them? And who said I don't care to change anything about my actions or want to change my thoughts or behaviors? I mean, I realize I'm feeling stressed in these stressful situations, and so I try to do things to handle my stress and/or improve my reaction to stressful situations... why do you need a therapist to do that? If I feel my heart race and a tension headache develop in a stressful situation, isn't a prescription anxiety med going to be more effective than rehashing why my dad sucks? What am I missing?[/quote]

It sounds like you need something like cognitive behavioral therapy, which is learning and practicing tools to use when you are stressed, rather than the kind of psychoanalytic therapy practiced last century where you lie on a couch and talk about your Dad.

You might also benefit from medication.  It's not an either/or.[/quote]

What is cognitive therapy and/or what are these "tools"? [/quote]

I’m not the PP, but come on, OP. Get a LITTLE curious and Google it. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy doesn’t deal with the deep psychological causes of emotions, but instead recognizes that our thoughts and emotions and behavior are intertwined. It isn’t just that our emotions drive our thoughts drive our behavior - you can change your emotions by changing your thoughts and behavior. Your behavior can directly impact your emotions (your example of deep breathing) or you can mediate it with thinking. It is extraordinarily effective for anxiety, pain disorders, and insomnia.

The “tools” are certain thought patterns or behaviors to use when you are experiencing stressful/anxiety producing situations. You can get a book to learn them if you like. Check Amazon. Lots of options.[/quote]

I mean, you just described everything I get w/my 10 Percent Happier app subscription...[/quote]

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