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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So she has issues with you screaming at your children for… being children, and you don’t care to change anything about your actions, thoughts, behaviours to eliminate this? Because you ‘know yourself’?

I tend to think the people who are most opposed to therapy are the ones who need it the most. Maybe you just haven’t found the right one, a male therapist may be more beneficial for you. [/quote]

Who said I scream at them? And who said I don't care to change anything about my actions or want to change my thoughts or behaviors? I mean, I realize I'm feeling stressed in these stressful situations, and so I try to do things to handle my stress and/or improve my reaction to stressful situations... why do you need a therapist to do that? If I feel my heart race and a tension headache develop in a stressful situation, isn't a prescription anxiety med going to be more effective than rehashing why my dad sucks? What am I missing?[/quote]
So in addition to your reluctance to better yourself, you also downplay the seriousness of your issues. Children not putting shoes on is not a reason to yell at them.

Yeah I don’t think you “know yourself” all that well, you just don’t GAF. No wonder your wife is at her wits end. [/quote]

Who says I'm reluctant to better myself? That only would apply if therapy is the only way to better yourself, and that's what I disagree with. In the past we have both attended parenting classes, which are super helpful, we both meditate, we both use exercise for stress reduction and I'm very willing to have conversations about my flaws and what I can improve. I'm doing the opposite of refusing to better myself. I'm just asking why therapy is necessarily a thing that is necessary to better myself.

Also, you're assuming my wife is at wits end. I went to therapy 18 months ago and my kids are now great at putting their shoes on. This isn't a current problem.[/quote]

I am skeptical that the problem has been completely resolved, and also that your wife is still asking you to go to therapy.  If someone asked her, what would she say is going on?[/quote]

that I haven't processed my relationship with my father, and I'm like, well, what exactly else is there to say about it? and she says, "I'm not sure, but that's why you should to go to therapy."

She's gone to therapy and she talked all about her mother, and honestly she'd come home seeming more upset about her mother than when she went. [/quote]

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