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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]...this just makes me really uncomfortable. I find lots of men attractive, but have no problem, when I feel like I love someone, forgoing having sexual relationship with other men, and I think I would find it very hard not to feel insecure and threatened in a non-monogamous relationship.
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Here's why you don't do this (yet). You're not ready. It makes you uncomfortable, and that's fine. Be honest with yourself and with him.

Because he's being hones with you: he's not (currently) interested in a monogamous relationship. If you are, you're incompatible.

Don't use other people to test your own waters. Sit with yourself and decide what's for you and what isn't, and then move accordingly. It's fine to be poly. It's equally fine to not be. What's not okay is playing games with people, intentionally or ignorantly, because you haven't taken the time by yourself to figure out what you want from a relationship.[/quote]

He knows she hasn't done this before. This is low stakes for both of them. She could say to him, hey, I don't know if this is for me but I'm willing to give it a try, and he can make a choice about whether to do it. [/quote]

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