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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom and MIL both were widowed rather suddenly two years ago. My mom has always been a busy, social extrovert with lots of interests and my MIL is a quieter, less curious person who played second fiddle to my gregarious FIL. Now that they're both living alone, it's really amazing to see how my mom has blossomed while MIL seems to be shrinking. My mom socializes, volunteers, and takes classes every day. I don't worry about her. My MIL, though, mostly sits at home and watches TV, up to eight hours a day by her own admission. Once a week, she plays pool and does tai chi with a group at her 55+ living community. She also heads to a casino in a nearby state once a week with a friend to play blackjack.

MIL is much closer to her daughter than to my husband, so on weekends she heads to her house to hang out. But even my SIL is a little concerned and told me that she'd love to see her mom do more. MIL has never had therapy, but for a while after FIL died she said she was taking Tylenol PM so she could sleep. She may still be doing that, for all we know.

Is there anything we/I can do to prod her in a healthier direction? There is so much on offer in our area, but she doesn't seem motivated. Is she depressed or genuinely content? It's hard to tell. And as I'm not her child, I'm not sure it's my role to wade in.

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No.  There is nothing to do.  It is her life and she gets to spend it how she wants.  Stay out of it.  Not your business at all.  Why would you want to?[/quote]

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