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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.  I can see how people might wonder how I could actually have a relationship with my sister. [b]It's hard to turn your back on your sibling, even when they are acting so horribly[/b]. She's my sister. And, although she is being truly horrible in many ways, she has some good in her. Also, I love her child, and I love her step-daughter too. No relationship with my sister would mean severing ties with the kids as well.

Anyway, my parents are of no help.[b] They are cowards[/b], and would never do or say anything to make trouble.

Talking to the husband - that's something I've thought about...it's another case where it would definitely get back to my sister, for one, and also I have a hard time grasping exactly how he feels about everything.  At times he seems to agree that my sister is way out of line, but at the same time he's a pretty strict parent and I think he interprets some of what my sister does as tough love. Also, he doesn't like his ex-wife, either, and that plays into it.  He's tough to figure out.

After reading the comments here, I really feel more strongly that I should at least call the counselor...and that I need to tell my sister how I feel about what I'm seeing and hearing. That will be hard, and I'm not sure how to do it.  I totally disagree with the MYOB approach of a couple of the first posters, but one of them said something that I think may be true, and that is "you aren't going to be able to change your sister."[/quote]

No, it's pretty easy. If someone is an ass, family or not, I don't choose to spend time with them.

You too are a coward because you are afraid of your sister and allow a child to be treated horribly.  Step up and speak out the next time your sister says anything you mentioned in your op.  If you hear her say "that's stupid, her mom would do that" say immediately." That is a terrible and inappropriate thing to say to a child." If your sister gets pissy then you say "Your defensiveness and pissy attitude stems from the fact that I just called you out on your inappropriate behavior. "  [/quote]

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