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Well the apple has not fallen far from the tree! Your approach is cowardly too. I an't believe you needed an anonymous forum to persuade you to do something.  You seem so afraid of your sister's outburst and you are a grown ass woman.  Imagine how terrified this child must be of your sister! The karma that will come to you for turnig your back on this child...and the karma your sister will experience for treating this child so horribly is going to be unbelievable!! I am so disgusted by your sister's behavoir and wish I knew her basic info so I could turn her into CPS. This is going to affect this child for the rest of her life.  How can you sleep at night knowing this and knowing you have not done anything to help this poor child.  If this child gets the courage to tell a mandated reporter ( teacher, doctor,social worker or school counselor) you could find yourself in trouble because you witnessed tihs abuse and did NOTHING! Emotional abuse is treated by many as just as, if not more, damaging than physical abuse.  Get a spine! Your sister is a monster and you are sitting by condoning this with your silence.  You never know, you may need the help of another one day and you would hate for someone to sit by and watch you in need and do NOTHING!! [/quote]

Back down a bit, PP. I'm doing the best I can here. I readily admit that my approach has been cowardly. It's really easy for someone on the outside (you) to cast stones, without being in this position. From here on the inside, the solutions don't appear so easy or clear-cut. [b]It's not just that I am afraid of my sister yelling at me. I am afraid of losing all contact with her child and step-child[/b].[/quote]

Not the PP, but I was going to write largely the same thing (about the apple not falling far from the tree).  You have witnessed this mistreatment for years, have made half-hearted attempts to address it but backed down immediately because your sister blows up, and you call OTHERS cowardly?  And now you spin it that you're afraid of losing contact with your nieces?  Pretty selfish - you refuse to take actions [b]becaus the personal consequences for you would hurt your feelings.[/b]  It's not like being in contact with you is doing your step-niece a whole lot of good anyway, is it?  You're just modeling yet another adult who watches her get mistreated and stands idly by - can't be bothered to inetrvene.  Grow a set, OP.  [/quote]
Not the poster you quoted, but I'm guessing it's not so much about hurting her feelings, but more about the fact that how helpful could the aunt possibly be to the daughter if she is cut out of the relationship with her by the mother?[/quote]

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