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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How recently did he start the medication?

Sometimes the medication enables the person to learn better skills and ways of relating, but they still do have to learn it and that's a process. The medication is only the first step in the process.

Is your therapist someone who's good with ADHD marriages? If not, I would look for a different therapist with specifically that interest.

There are a lot of marriage articles here.
https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-marriage-advice-husband-symptoms/[/quote]

NP, and I am the spouse of someone with ADHD. I hated this article because it puts so much onus on the non-ADHD spouse. I’ve tried patience and schedules and organization and now I feel major resentment toward my spouse. [/quote]

OP here. I feel this big time.[/quote]

Imagine being the non-ADHD spouse but actually having ADD as well and still being in charge because you created systems and learned new skills while your partner only has enough brain power to get through work. Its incredibly frustrating and yes, there have been plenty of times on the weekends where mid-day and he cant function in a meaningful way and hes like ohh I didnt take my meds.  :roll:

You cant just take the medicine and everything gets better. You have to figure out systems and routines. The medicine isnt going to close the cupboards or put away glasses. You have to say mantras all day like dont put down, put away and make new brain pathways.

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Too much work. Mom will do that for me.[/quote]

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