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I don't think they are robots, but I don't think that pay that much attention to individual cases either. And even if we accept you premise that "following your doctor's advice is not a gamble", finding a doctor is a gamble. So, by implication, sometimes what your doctor tells you is a gamble (as another, equally experienced doctor, would tell you the opposite). It's easy to say "find a different doctor", but realistically one can't interview more than a few doctors, and even then, one can't judge what they are truly like until one is in the midst of a treatment. [/quote]

Even if everything you say is true, it's not helpful to tell someone that the treatment option they are pursuing is a "gamble" without any rationale...or just saying that something doesn't make sense except for in one specific case (especially if that's not even true).  There are many reasons to pursue one option over another.  And there are many reasons to wait until day 5.  Unless you can offer reasoned critique of what a person is doing (and I don't think either of the PP's did that), telling someone they are making the wrong decision does not help anyone.

And FWIW, I do think some RE's pay a fair amount of attention to individual cases.  They might not always have the best stats, but part of that is the fact that they do modify their recommendations based on what their patients want and are willing to take on harder cases.  It's true that you can't know everything about your doctor beforehand, but you can assess whether they would be willing to help you get what you want out of their treatment or what they think you should want.  There is also a lot of information on forums like this that gives you some insight into what a doctor is like and his/her philosophy before you make an appointment.  It's true doctors make different recommendations, but in most cases it's far less arbitrary than a random post on a forum coming from someone who knows no details about any specific case.  [I understand that obviuosly no one is obligated to follow a random post on the internet, but when emotions are high and everything is uncertain, it's hurtful to have someone tell you you're taking a gamble with your treatment.][/quote]

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