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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh lord you are mad lol. But, I would be too. That's annoying.

I would just shut it down every time it comes up. And if it keeps coming up to the point that you're constantly shutting it down, I would shut this down. [/quote]
I am mad! I am mad that he wanted to debate a political issue with me when a) I didn't even disagree with him and b) I had a bad day. I didn't call and say "Let's debate hot button issue." I called and said "I had a bad day," mentioned I was reading the news, and then was verbally bombarded with "DID YOU READ THIS LET'S DISCUSS THIS NO YOU'RE EVADING THE QUESTION." Like, dude, chill. I am literally just learning about it now for the first effing time.

I don't want to be one of those couples that can't talk politics, although in this case it would be less about disagreeing and more about the fact that even when I do agree with him, I'm treated like opposing counsel. [/quote]

3:13 here.  Sometimes I have to tell dh that I am not the enemy here.  You need to push back for your own sanity’s sake.  Either he’ll figure it out or he won’t.  [/quote]
That’s perfect verbiage, thanks. That’s exactly what it feels like - being treated like the enemy

Him: “Here’s a policy I don’t like. It is the worst policy in the world.”
Me: “Yeah, it’s pretty bad.”
Him: “The person responsible for this policy should be murdered by vigilante bandits and anyone who supports it hates America.”
Me: “Well-“
Him: “Oh so you hate America and want kids to die? Cool.“

Like wtf lol. I agreed with you! And I cannot stress this enough but in the case of the discussion that inspired this post, I was like, “Oh huh I haven’t even heard of that decision. I’ll read up on it!” He reacted like I had said “Oh I’m actually the person who made that decision and I did it just to spite you and your coworkers.”

I actually did try discussing this with him once before, but I fear I was too soft. I was like, I love how passionate you are but you cannot seriously speak to people this way, do you? And he was like that’s just my style, so I said anyone who supports XYZ is a murderous traitor who deserves to be hanged in the town square, what like you don’t have opinions?

I’ve also tried pointing out that discourse like the kind he engages in is how we got to where we are. I was like “You wouldn’t like it very much if the other side spoke to you like this, would you?” and the cop out he gave in response was “Yeah but they already do. I’m not going to be nice to them just so they’ll maybe be nice to me. Also they deserve my contempt!”

The annoying thing is aside from this, he’s an incredible boyfriend. Thoughtful, supportive, generous. But every few weeks he gets a bee in his bonnet and no matter how strongly I’m like “Yeah that’s bad” he talks to me like I’m the bad guy!

Anyway I can’t sleep so I’m just venting again. Thanks guys.[/quote]

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