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[quote=Anonymous]14:22 - This is true, I was going to say the same thing.  DH grew up with a mother who was raised dirt, dirt poor.  She  only fed her children the same simple rotation of foods because she grew up with nothing.   I am not saying this is a *good* reason, but it is her background story.  Growing up so poor made her fanatical about some very arbitrary things, and completely inept at many things.  [My father grew up dirt poor and happened to have (very fortunately) had more positive experiences - so it did *not* have to be this way.  But I believe mental illness also played a big part, as MIL is definitely depressed, to say the least.]

In DH's family, there was immense pressure for *no change* (!!!!!) in the house, and this is/was especially true of food.   He is brilliant (seriously), and does not often know the difference between different foods.  Even though they lived abroad and have many experiences, some very random basic stuff is unknown to them.  It is bizarre, but mostly I feel bad for him, as if he missed out on really good, really fresh food because of his mother's weirdness about food.  FWIW, MIL is still hostile about food (and money too).

Being the root of the *issue* (it really is an issue to grow up that way), it is interesting to see her in action.  My young children are very aware of her issues/weirdness, so hearing it from them is well, interesting.   Again, its a little sad and extremely unfortunate.  Thankfully, DH has grown a lot in the past few years and realizes it is important not to spend money, but to have certain basic experiences (not just bragging rights).

Anyway, it is likely that if the sitter grew up with either poor and/or inept (psychologically absent) parents, she did not have proper nutrition growing up.

How is she with your children, other than food?  Is food a deal breaker for you?  Are you able to leave notes on the food or is this not practical for you?

I agree you should not have to, just wondering.     [/quote]

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