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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone ever had the slow fade work with one of these kinds of people?  My experience was that me setting boundaries meant a major explosion on their part.[/quote]

I had a (male) friend who was (is?) very needy. And I was there for him during his divorce, but eventually it was too much for me, I didn't want that level of friendship. More than once I suggested he talk to a therapist and he responded that he "went to a therapist once, but it didn't help." Yeah OK. So this spring I was VERY busy, and I made it my goal to step back from my friendship. I told him I was going to be very busy for 2-3 months. And basically I stopped responding to his chat at work with full answers & follow up questions. Bare minimum responses.

And it worked. We are still technically friends, but I am not getting sucked in as I was before. Part of that is on me - most of that is on me - not feeding the beast. If he reached out, I don't respond right away, and I don't respond with a conversation.[/quote]

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