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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men still talk to me at 50+. Not sure what your issue is. Maybe your clothes are super frumpy? Wearing not enough makeup? Unattractive hairstyle?

A nice hair cut and color, a little make up, and a nice figure flattering outfit can really help you out.[/quote]

OP.  Nope.  I get compliments from women all the time--from friends and even strangers (clerks, etc).  I have lots of friends.  I'm fit.  Decent hair which I color very regularly (although it is nothing like the shiny, lush hair of my teen years--sigh)  Light make-up.  Nice clothing---I wear a lot of dresses worn by women 30+ (so not body-con and/or strapless but not dowdy)--shop higher end brands at Bloomingdales, etc. [/quote]

Sounds like your pretty privilege disappeared. Your looks are still good and something that women aspire to - well groomed, all of the right clothes, natural yet aging beauty. But the instinctive sexual attractiveness to males is gone; as you are in that post-menopausal age range. Now you are just another normal human to them. [/quote]

OP. Yes, I think this is probably true.  I was never super confident or comfortable in my sexuality as a young person and I dressed the opposite of sexy (i was a huge fan of overalls in my early 20s) and skirted around life with my head mostly down.  But even so I got a decent amount of privilege thrown my way and I could generally date the most attractive man in a room if I showed interest.  Ironically I finally grew into my self and gained confidence in my 40s and then my looks faded.  i think i'm a good conversationalist, a great friend, a decent wife and mother.  But the pretty privilege is gone. I think in some ways it's easier to never have had it.  It's hard to be invisible when you are used to be visible.  It's also sobering to realize the real role of sexual attractiveness to how some others value you despite everything else you bring to the table a woman, colleague, employee, or person.  [/quote]

Humblebrag.[/quote]

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