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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 50 and realizing how quickly I've become invisible to men and how little men want to have to do with me because i'm no longer attractive (I'm fit and well dressed and do a ton of maintenance etc but there is no really hiding that I'm 50).  I was at a (primarily male, industry) cocktail event last night. I used to be able to chat about anything and could hold male attention. Now they look bored within a minute or two.  I don't think I'm particularly boring--but I don't have youth or looks so whatever I say is boring to a large percentage of the male population.

I don't care about not having sex appeal (and in many ways that makes life easier) but I hate not being worth talking to unless I really assert myself or prove my intellectual ability right away. :cry:  It's been really noticeable recently.  I feel like I look the same as I did at 45 but the difference in conversation is MARKED. I shouldn't care but again it's not about the looks or the sex appeal.  It's about being worthy to interact with.  Sigh.  I'm getting used to it but this is rough.

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I’m 29 and get hit on by 50+ year old married men all the time. I’m seriously considering just dating an old guy. I have family money (don’t need to work) and I’m weirdly more attracted to old men anyway.

And I’m confused what you mean. I get spoken down to, patronized, and I’m never taken seriously in the workplace. I do have blonde hair and wear heavy makeup though. The old, matronly, and overweight women with homely appearances get taken way more seriously. No one ever listens to me or thinks that I’m intellectual, and it was even worse when I was early 20s

I barely work though (I do some work for my family, but any formal office job I quit after a few months). I have a trust fund, but I’m not that interested in traveling anymore and I get bored easily. And most normal people my age are incredibly jealous that they have to work for a living, live paycheck to paycheck, or stuck in some miserable marriage

Maybe you can go for young men. I had a 48 year old math teacher in high school that all the boys in my class were obsessed with. Some young guys have a weird attraction to old women [/quote]

Does your last paragraph kean you think 48 is an old woman?[/quote]

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