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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

Your fourteen year old son has no business being involved sexually with anyone at his age.

And one of the most important things you can discuss with him are the potentially life-altering (and even life-ending) consequences of premature sexual activity with anyone.

You can also discuss the wisdom of refraining from labeling himself (or even worse, accepting labels — and “boyfriends” — casually assigned to him by other immature peers) while he is still figuring things out.

Not liking the company, and especially the romantic company, of girls at his age is normal.

One of the worst and most terrible lies young people today have fed to them is that they are more or less obliged to act out sexually at the earliest possible opportunity.

Especially today, young people have a great deal to get through before any kind of meaningful pairing up makes any sense.

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Responding to several posts:

1. Nothing in this post says a thing about homosexuality. That is not an accident. Regardless what a person might ultimately determine their orientation to be, the time to do that very rarely is age 14, and taking up with a same sex partner chosen by an immature person of the opposite sex is very likely a poor means as well.

2. If “nature and hormones” are all that exists, nothing separates humans from animals. We expect young people to exercise self-restraint, discipline and a long term view of life when it comes to their education, their health and many other aspects of life. But when it comes to acting out sexually, suddenly intellect and will mean vanish and they are left with only the passions and governed exclusively by “nature and hormones.”  Please. That’s just silly.

3. There are tons of things fourteen year olds can do to improve themselves, their lives, and the world about them.  It is far better for them to be involved in those instead of chasing the momentary satisfaction of pleasant friction that can actually get in the way of meaningful self discovery.

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