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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The letter is written in an ambiguous way -- it's unclear whether the wife actually asked him to rank her on a 10 point scale or if he volunteered this form of "compliment" when she went looking for one.

Like my response to this is different if she said "scale of 1 to 10, how hot am I?" versus if she said "do you think I'm good looking?" If she asked him to rate her and he answered, she is absolutely at fault for asking a question she didn't want an answer to (especially because yes, an 8 is a very high ranking for most of us mortals). If she merely asked him if he thought she was attractive and he was like "yes, definitely, you're a solid 8," then her upset is totally warranted.

All of that said, even if your wife says "please rate me on a scale of 1 to 10," you need to understand she is not actually looking for a rating. Not even an inflated one. What she really wants is for you to say "you will alway see a 10 [I]to me[/I]" because what she really wants is reassurance, not an unbiased assessment. She knows she's not a 10 and she knows you know that, she just wants to know that it doesn't really matter, that you love her anyway. Yes it's insecure but all people are insecure at times and if someone is having an insecure moment, it actually is the job of their marriage partner to reassure them. If you think you are going to get through marriage without at least a few moments of your spouse feeling insecure and needing validation/reassurance, then maybe marriage isn't for you. Everyone has their down moments.[/quote]

Those are a lot of words to explain that when women ask their SO or spouse this type of question they're going out of their way to try to pick a fight if you give any answers they don't want to hear.  Just as Ms. Hax stated.

What a ridiculous waste of time. [/quote]

Good luck with your divorce, dude.[/quote]

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