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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope he’s decent to your kids! [/quote]

OP here I hope so too. I have no plans to ever meet him. Ex wife has the responsibility to ensure that he is good with the kids. I am not too worried about that because 99% of men honestly even if they don't like kids they will be sensitive to another man's children. 6 months anyways is really.....but what can I do nothing. [/quote]

I hate to break it to ya but she's trying to make this guy a more permanent part of her life if she's introducing him to the kids.[/quote]

I am fine with that. I do not have an issue at all with her even dating her AP now. My issue is that's the guy she is introducing my kids to. I feel emasculated. I came on the Internet because I can freely express my vulnerabilities here anonymously but deep inside I am questioning things about myself. Of course I won't let her define who I am nevertheless it's a tough pill to swallow when the guy who snatched your wife will also be the guy who will be in your kids' lives.[/quote]

With all the love, OP, get over it. She's your ex. If she wanted to become the neighborhood bike, she could. It has nothing to do with you. And if it weren't this guy,  you'd be bent about whoever else it was. If you're questioning things about yourself, feeling emasculated, acting like a victim over "the guy who snatched your wife", do yourself a favor: go to therapy and take a long, honest look at where you screwed up your marriage.

I'm not making excuses for cheating, which is one of the lowest things a human can do. But no happy partner cheats. Wherever you went wrong is the part you have some control over, and if you want to feel better, taking control of what you can control, yourself, is the way.

Spend your energy where the ROI is solid and will benefit you/your life. And FTLOG, ignore all the posters telling you to make the details a burden on your kids. If you didn't have open conversations with them about how your sex life was good (if it was), you don't need to have open conversations with them about cheating. The truth always finds its way to the light, and how you handle this situation is about you. Keep your feelings about her actions off your kids.[/quote]

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