Reply to Annoying Stay at Home Know Mom Knows It All

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Annoying Stay at Home Know Mom Knows It All "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] 1.  she's right. Parents who work 9-5 or longer hours are only seeing their kids for 1hr in the am and 2-2.5hrs at night depending on bedtime monday-friday. Most of that is transition/routine. Eat, bath, bed - you do miss out on leisurely playing and no you can't get that time back. Especially between 0-4. A maid is not childcare. Outsourcing cleaning has nothing to do with this your point

2. Well raised kids in safe environments typically don't fall into the troubled teens pitfalls. But this also takes parents who are around and aware. You need to know who your kids friends are and what their influences are. You also need to have time and money to jump into action at the first sign

3. Public school can be too woke. 2nd graders don't really need to know they can be a girl, boy, plant, dog. There is a time and place for these discussions. Also public curriculum can be problematic depending on district. Maybe she choose the school based off what they can afford and what's the best learning environment for her kids. Who cares if it's ritzy besides you.

4. If you can't afford it don't buy it. Sounds like she doesn't need to play the points game. Great for her. hope you're at least paying your cc bills in full every month. As should everyone

5. Many parents want their kids to go to certain school. And maybe her kids want to attend. Who cares what her goals are. Are you cool with your kids not going to college or taking 6 years to finish community college? Be honest. But don't judge someone for wanting more. Personally I think college degrees minus specific programs are a waste right now. But this lady can afford to buy credentials for her kids why shouldn't she

6. Some volunteers don't know what they are doing. Is this a competitive team? Recreational? Maybe she played soccer and has some authority on the matter.

7. Maybe they like new cars and can easily afford it. Why are you keeping track of how often she switches or what she's driving?

8. Organic dairy and meat are beneficial. Dirty dozen for fruit and veg. Why do you care what someone else feeds their kids.

You're the only one who sounds like a judgemental b-you also sound super insecure and intimidated by this woman. Are you sad that she doesn't want anything to do with you? She never wanted to be sisters or besties! Because honestly with your attitude and beliefs this lady is better off not being associated with you [/quote]

1. Some people have to work in order to house and clothe and feed their kids. Judging this "choice" is idiotic, especially if the only reason you have a choice is because your *spouse* makes a lot of money. If you are so worried about other people's children, offer to support them so they can stay home with their kids. Otherwise, shut up.

2. No one knows if they are raising their kids well until it's said and done. It is ALWAYS hubris for parents of younger kids to claim that the problems parents of older kids encounter must be due to those parents' bad choices. Maybe it is, maybe it's not. You don't know yet. The best thing to do is just be quiet and focus on your own family. People who pontificate on this subject betray their own insecurities about parenting.

3. My kid's public is not woke like this and in 5 years she's never received any instruction on trans issues at all. The wokeness basically takes the form of "be tolerant of people who aren't like you, and also people's private lives are none of your business." There are absolutely private schools that are more woke. So OP's SIL is just wrong about this.

4. As with #2, pontificating on how the people should and should not spend money, when it does not impact you directly, is obnoxious. I also don't believe in buying on credit but it's not something I brag about because I'm not an a$$hole. I don't care what other people do.

5. Again, it's fine to have goals for your kids or to support their goals, but *shut up about it.* When you walk around saying that only an Ivy will do for your kid, the implication is that kids who don't go to Ivies aren't as good. You might think that privately. You might even be right about it. But it is basic etiquette to not say these things out loud, especially not to a family member who might not have the same resources. The issue here isn't wanting your kids to go to Ivies, it's not having basic manners and discretion about your life. It's the need to advertise this stuff to other people and expect them to be impressed. They are more likely to be annoyed and dislike you.

6. I am sure this is only an issue because the SIL is such a judgmental jerk in all these other ways. She has built up no good will, so when she complains about something that might be valid, like a volunteer coach who is a mess, OP doesn't want to hear it. And I wouldn't either.

7. This one is a little petty but again, the SIL sounds like a piece of work in all the other ways which means when she does something not that bad, like just preferring to lease nice newer cars because this is something she cares about, OP is understandably irritated. If the SIL had a good personality and wasn't constantly judging everyone about everything, I doubt this would matter.

8. The SIL is the one who cares what other people feed their kids. OP didn't say what she feeds her kids, only that the SIL has apparently announced what foods are okay and not okay for other people to feed their kids. So she's doing exactly what you are scolding OP for.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics