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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would anyone want this? The only thing you have in common with all these people is you are all parents living on the same block. That doesn't make a friendship. I guess I'm just very picky.[/quote]

Because it's great for kids and teens to have friends they live near. Idk, the whole neighborhood scene was so important to me growing up, I would have hated not having it. The adults in our neighborhood were really social as well.[/quote]

It's weird that people think proximity is the main ingredient for friendships. That probably works in lower elementary. By age 10, personalities and interests are apparent and two neighbors who have nothing in common aren't going to be friends just because it's a short walk to each other's house. It's great when nearby kids can be good friends, but it's not something you should expect or take for granted.[/quote]

Umm no proximity is a strong if not the strongest predictor of friendships.
https://steemit.com/steemiteducation/@aceaeterna/psychology-of-interpersonal-relationships-proximity#:~:text=Proximity%20is%20the%20strongest%20indicator,a%20factor%20in%20interpersonal%20attraction.[/quote]

Are you a bot? All those studies are from the 1950s-1970s before kids had most of their free time scheduled and before it was commonplace to commute to a private school instead of sending kids to the nearest public. It doesn't work like that in most UMC places nowadays. All the kids on the block are in their structured weekend activities, travel sport, often go to different schools too, and generally do not hang out together nearly as much as good friends do. Nice fantasy, but it's just not realistic these days. [/quote]

I'm not a bot. I'm an academic. I actually kind of love that I sounded like a bot. This finding has been replicated consistently though. I just posted the first link I found, which is obviously going to have the classic studies. There is unlikely going to be research conducted specifically focusing on "UMC places with structured weekend activities," and that may certainly diminish the effect, but I doubt it would go away altogether. If you are considering a play date or a carpool, proximity would again come into play. The bigger point is that proximity absolutely drives friendships, which pp said was untrue.[/quote]

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