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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a childless fifty year old who has taken care of many elderly relatives in a variety of settings.

I’ve pretty much decided I’d rather die puttering around my apartment and falling than in a nursing home.

What are her finances like ? Could she or you afford home caregivers?[/quote]

This 100%. So many people on DCUM infantilize the elderly and think they can just take away their rights. So what if your mother dies by falling in her house if it's what she wants? I would much rather die living the way I want than being forced into a gross, smelly, depressing nursing home, that my kids will dread coming to whenever they "have" to visit. This is how I feel about my mother. I absolutely loved my mother growing up. She wasn't perfect, but she and my dad gave us a nice life. She is now wasting away in a memory care unit and I literally can't stand her. If she had just lived the way she wanted, in her own home, her life wouldn't be ending this way. [b]So she leaves the stove on and dies in an explosion?[/b] Seriously. As long as she doesn't hurt others, then I still say that would be way better than the way she lives now, hated by the one livng relative she has left, through no real fault of her own. I plan to do better for my kids. And would probably follow through on what your mother said, and take the pills. [/quote]

Surely you're being sarcastic.

You think an exploding house will only effect the elderly person living in it?   Not the neighbors?   Not the first responders that have to come put out the fire (remember just a couple months ago in Sterling a firefighter lost his life in a house explosion?)[/quote]

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