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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a childless fifty year old who has taken care of many elderly relatives in a variety of settings.

[b]I’ve pretty much decided I’d rather die puttering around my apartment and falling than in a nursing home.[/b]

What are her finances like ? Could she or you afford home caregivers?[/quote]

It’s not all about you.    This attitude is so self-centered and selfish.

Dementia patients left on their own become a danger to everyone else. Their neighbors, first responders, random innocent people.[/quote]

Nah, I am team stay at home.[/quote]

I tried that for 6 months and it was a disaster. My mom was super nasty and occasionally violent/destructive. She would also often not make it to the bathroom on time. It’s sounds nice to be able to stay “at home” on paper but becomes a bad reality pretty quickly. Also, depending on needs, in home care could be way more costly than a dementia care facility (which is already super expensive).[/quote]

This. I did it for a year to try and honor her wishes but when I found her sprawled out on the floor one morning w/ shit smeared from head to toe and all over the floor, w/o a care in the world that she was covered in it and that I’d be the one to clean it up, I said no more. [/quote]

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