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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for over a decade. They met in college and are now 34. The boyfriend claims he loves her but is not ready for marriage. I personally would have left long ago. They have lived together for 10 years and basically act like a married couple except they are not married.

Does it ever work out for women who never get the ring?

Do they eventually leave? Have kids out of wedlock?[/quote]

If one wants marriage but the other doesn't the one that does usually grows resentful. If both are on the same page then it's not a problem.
I know many women who live with their boyfriends as a married couple, but have no interest in marriage as a legal institution. Does your friend want marriage or you're assuming she does?[/quote]

She wants marriage and kids. Her family is pressuring her big time. They are younger than me so I always thought of her as like a fresh college grad but now she is approaching advanced maternal age. Her family is telling her to have a baby now.[/quote]

What her family wants should be irrelevant. [/quote]

Sometimes the family is pressuring because they know that’s what the woman wants and she isn’t being honest with herself.  Sometimes the family is pressuring because what they want is different from what the woman wants.  Hard to tell, looking in.[/quote]

Family often overestimates how much they know about the desires of other family members and they end up projecting their own wants and fears into other people. I wouldn't be surprise that family pressure is a huge factor in how desperate someone is to achieve something. I can't tell you how many times my family and friends assumed I wanted things I never had any real interest in, and they pressured me by telling me that I needed to be more honest with myself. I think that family pressure is never ok unless we're talking about a life or death situation.[/quote]

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