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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. Sorry for just getting back to this thread but this person and I are in the same school district (zoned for the same high school) and I know everything there is to know about this high school. I also know she is very sensitive about the fact she had to withdraw her kids from their private school and was embarrassed when it happened especially because many of her close friends’ kids are in private schools and she is very prickly about the college outcome discussion - ie, always quick to point out that “Larla at Stone Ridge is going to Cornell but Xi Yuon Wu at her kid’s public high school also got in - so see you don’t need private school!” But it is constant.

That kind of thing. She doesn’t understand that we just don’t like the public high school for a variety of reasons but don’t want to list them and insult her so I just have to stay muted while she rants. Do public school parents understand that private school students make up just a tiny portion of the student population in this country and that you cannot fill any top college or university or any college at all with private school students so there WILL ALWAYS be colleges full of both private and public school students - it’s such a low brow argument. [/quote]

Sadly, you just have to endure this and move on.  The recommendations above on how to steer conversation in another direction are your best bet.  Hopefully in the long run it'll stop as the kids grow up and become adult children. We had a family member who literally used to have my nieces and nephews doing "math tricks" at the Christmas/Thanksgiving table and then would quiz my kids on the spot to size them up. It was insane. To my surprise, my oldest figured out how to lean into this craziness by coming up with some clever sort of joke or statement to divert the conversation and (even better) with nuances that highlighted the foolishness of the family member.  I'm not quite this clever - so I just tried not to engage and eventually it'd pass over (not to say it didn't bother me though!).  But people like this never change - it's really all about them and their insecurity. Sadly, we can't pick family - so you just have to find a way to deal with them.   [/quote]

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