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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you want most for your kids? For me it’s to be happy, healthy, have opportunities to try new things, and to be set up for career options that pays the bills (not necessarily to make $600k mind you, as I don’t think that’s necessary for a happy fulfilling life).

Healthy: that’s physical health and metal health. Living in a pressure cooker is not good for mental health. Knowing how to relax, having time for family and friends - all good for mental health. I remind myself that when there are decisions to be made about going up a level in sports, putting academic pressure on, etc.

Happy: I make a point to model, encourage, and talk about the things that actually are demonstrated to make people happy. Social connections. Having agency in your own life (ie kids have opportunity to make own decisions, and live with consequences even if those paths aren’t necessarily what you think is best). Listen to the episodes about raising happy kids in the Happiness Lab.

Career that pays the bills: we talk about different career paths, what it takes to get there, and the trade offs. We expect them to do well in school, but don’t review homework every night, hire tutors if they’re doing fine, etc. We’d definitely help if they are struggling, and give advice (encouraging them to talk to teachers, etc) but if they are meeting our basic standards of being respectful, turning work in, and generally not slacking, it’s their decision if they want to do Beast Academy for fun (something they did in elementary school) or join the debate team (something I’ve suggested to my HS daughter who is very self motivated to get into a good school but which I’m not pushing further, other than letting her know my I thought my experiences in things like debate and model un were great experiences that helped me later in college and jobs)[/quote]

You have so much money and privilege to be able to write a post like this. [/quote]

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