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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Some more details:

We try to be very positive and approach it in a low-stress way but DC seems stressed out at this point nonetheless. DC refuses to try the method where you walk around pants-free (will freak out and keep demanding pants) and also says the potty "is scary" :-(

We have a new baby as well, and DC's stress seems partially related to some understandable jealousy. For example, DC has said, "I don't want to be big, I want to be little like [the baby's name]. I don't want big kid underpants, I want diapers like [the baby's name]." So that's playing a role, but I'm not sure how big a factor it is.[/quote]
If DC wants to be a baby then take away a treasured "big kid" privilege. I'm sorry, but psych blocks to potty training require a psych response.

Try a standing catch for pee and/or peeing in the shower. Ikea has a potty that has a removable green thingie. If you have a yard, go outdoors!

Demystify the toilet by letting them watch you go, especially public toilets with the noisy flush.

Start with bribes to sit on the potty fully clothed, then move to the toilet, then bribe them for flushing the toilet. Let them flush your poo.

Check out a stack of potty training books from the library. My favorites are Everyone Poops by Taro Gomi and Once Upon a Potty by Alona Frankel  [/quote]

That first part is mean, do not punish your child by taking something away. Just don’t refer to it anything as something big kids do anymore since that is not motivating for your DC. Instead when you get push back tell them that you know they can do it, they can do hard things!

The rest is good advice, you can reduce the anxiety over time by talking about going potty a lot. You should also consider letting them choose which small potty they like best - it’s not uncommon for kids to be frightened of a regular toilet with a potty insert.

Also, if you are able, if your child gets one on one time with you in the bathroom that might be motivating given the new sibling.[/quote]
It's not mean, it's a natural consequence. They are baby or a big kid, they don't get it both ways. [/quote]

The child is 3, she does not have the expressive language skills to say "This is very scary and stressful for me. I am jealous that the baby, who has also taken so much of my parents' attention away from me, is not being forced to do this." That is what she means when she says she wants to be a baby. Taking away a big kid privilege (I'm struggling to figure out what that would even be - my three year old does not get to do anything appealing that my one year old also can't do) is not a natural consequence to being afraid or unable to use the potty. The only "natural" consequence for that is accidents. [/quote]
Balance bike 
Sweets 
Screen time 
Sit at table and not in high chair (my friend used this when her preschooler wanted to be the baby and kept having accidents, she had 2 kids younger than the "baby")

I don't know OP's kid, but she does

I have three kids and none of them were scared of potty training. If they have big negative feels, they picked those up from mom 
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You sound more like you’ve had NO kids. Not everything is mom’s fault. Kids are their own people. They absolutely do become afraid of things for their own innate personality reasons.[/quote]

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