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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m well aware of the concept that your value on the dating market is apparent by the types of men who ask you out and remain interested in second and third dates and that some women (and men) just have unrealistic standards. My issue is that I’m running to an opposites-attract problem, from the guys’ perspective.

I’m an active, athletic, outgoing, and outdoorsy kind of person. I’m attracted to similar men, but they aren’t attracted to me. I seem to attract introverted, “nerdy” men. The typical guy I match with on the dating apps is Asian or South Asian, average to below average height, introverted, works in tech, and plays Dungeons N Dragons, and typically just lets me dominate the conversation. [b]I don’t really care about race or height[/b], but the indoors/introvert is just not my type. 
Maybe that’s just the selection that uses dating apps. I’ve also joined a local hiking group but, alas, most of the men are gay or taken. And they are often taken by less athletic and more traditionally feminine women who stay home.

Sometimes I think I just lack the natural feminine grace that desirable women have. I’m not “butch” or anything, I like to wear dresses and heels on occasion… but you know how some women are just naturally feminine and sexy in the way they carry themselves? Their makeup, hairstyle, nails, skin, perfume, mannerisms all just make them perfectly put together… Ive just never had that. I think the vibe I give off is more hippie wild child rather than feminine, maternal, and nurturing.

As a side note to all this, this is why it drives me crazy when people say “just don’t be fat” and you’ll attract men. If all I had was one job to not be fat, I should have men chasing me left and right. Many of these hiker/outdoorsy guys’ wives and girlfriends are curvier and softer looking than me, just more feminine.

Too bad I’m not a lesbian! [/quote]

Then why are those the first 2 attributes you mention when describing the guys you’ve dated? My guess is you DO care about race and height so why not just say so? [/quote]

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