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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I am definitely not going to say slanting to the parents. The mom is not the type to be open to any kind of non positive feedback about her kids anyway. I do think it sucks that this kid is talking about this in a way that is very upsetting to my kid. I am probably taking this a little personally because the dad has told DH part of their reason is getting away from needy sped kids in their class and my son is autistic. We probably just need distance from these people in general.[/quote]

Yes. You need distance from them.  They are toxic.  But also please understand that the educational philosophy trends/legal requirements to mainstream kids with IEPs and various issues, diagnoses, etc. does impact the NT kids.  I have bitten my tongue many times in the name of equity, but I actually agree that the non-NT kids are often holding back class progress and the ones with overt behaviors create classroom disruptions that would not have been tolerated in my childhood public schools.  I can speak to distinct shortfalls in my kids' learning in certain years because their classes got behind due to class disruptors who could not work at the same pace.  And the NT kids do become cynical about the other students and their accommodations.  I wish it was a situation of familiarity breeds tolerance but sadly it seems to be contempt instead.

I almost never say anything to anybody because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings (especially little kids').  But the status quo is quite frustrating.  I understand now why people do try to move to the "best" school districts.  But I'm still hoping to raise kids who are patient, tolerant, and not snobs.  So I continue to wrestle with my snap judgments and hope that the temporary disadvantages my kids experience will somehow be outweighed by being forced to understand the reality of society and humanity instead of being in a more homogenous bubble.[/quote]

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