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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Exact scenario happened a few years ago at our house where older DD thought she and the older sister were just as good of friends as younger DD and the younger sister of the other family. So naturally I would invite both sisters from the other family to do things with us. Until one day the mom kindly but very bluntly stated to me that it really wasn’t necessary to keep inviting the older one just because our younger girls are friends. It was a shock when she said this—-but the message was intentional.
At this point, all four were still in elementary school, and this was my first and only clue that the older sibling wanted nothing to do with my older DD, but clearly her daughter had made it clear to her mom that she was not friends with my older daughter. Ouch.
It was difficult, but I gently steered older DD away from continuing to invite the older sister along and started encouraging her to reach out to other friends.[/quote]

Oh that’s particularly painful when your child thinks they are friends and doesn’t realize the feeling isn’t mutual. How awkward of the mom for pointing that out to you though? Strange that she wasn’t just gracious about it. Do you think she assumed that you were just being nice or did she not realize your older daughter did think she was friends with her daughter?[/quote]

I have a kid in 7th grade. When kids are younger, they are happy to play with anyone. Once they are around 10, they get pickier. My current 13yo used to be the friendliest boy who played with everyone. Everyone wanted to be his friend. By fifth grade, he was very specific on who he wanted to hang out with. Now he is in 7th grade and he doesn’t even hang out with some friends he used to be friends with all through elementary.[/quote]

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