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[quote=Anonymous]I guess I’m an authoritarian parent because at 5 and 6, the issue I’d have is not the jumping on the couch—it’s acting in defiance of direct instruction from me about what NOT to do.

IMO there’s just no negotiation on that at such a young age because it only gets more difficult from here.

Right now they need firm and clear boundaries and the point is not whether we think it’s dangerous or not or whether or not you should or shouldn’t allow couch jumping.
The point is—what is YOUR rule about it? 
If the rule is “no jumping on the couch” then THAT’s the rule and there needs to be a clear and consistent consequence if/when they choose to violate your rule.

The equivocation and the “DH doesn’t think it’s a big deal but I do” creates confusion and inconsistency. 
If you make it a rule, then follow through. Otherwise you’re just teaching them that your rules are negotiable and there’s so much wiggle room that they don’t know where the line is, OP.
You don’t need to be angry about it when they test the boundaries. Just consistent. [/quote]

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