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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, this is OP. Thanks for all the responses.

The question was not "help me determine if I am inventing care tasks", but "there are time-consuming admin tasks that can be done remotely. Given that due to my proximity to mom my family is already taking care of some errands for mom (think bring in heavy groceries, clean gutters, mow lawn, IT help), it makes sense to split some of the remote tasks (think taxes, fin assistance paperwork, fin planning, assisted living research, insurance paperwork - it's a lot and she cannot do it herself).

I mainly care to establish a precedent going forward that I am not the default person to take care of all physical and admin needs. There is some helpful advice there - thanks for that. [/quote]

If she needs that much help at 68, maybe it's time she moved to a full-service place. That may be what your brother is trying to tell you, if you're willing to hear it. Cater to her in that home for the next 30 years cannot be your plan. He may engage more if he's helping her get to a place that works for the three of you, rather than you pressuring him to help enable her to stay in a home she can't manage.[/quote]

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