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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a 4th grade boy and I think that is old enough to know not to be a jerk, especially to adults you don't know. I would not be happy with my son if I found out he said something like that. We are very big on showing respect to others around us, especially at school/church/sports where adults are taking the time to work with them. My son is a jerk sometimes to his brother and parents, because of the whole secure attachment thing. He knows we will love him regardless. Of course we still correct him and give consequences as appropriate.

I think we are giving kids too much of a free pass these days. Fourth graders are young, but not little kids like a kindergartner. They know when they are being jerks. This whole "give them grace" thing is not working so well for us. Teachers want to quit because kids are so out of control. Parents need to talk to their kids about expectations for their behavior out in the world. Kids need to know what is acceptable and not acceptable. This should be done proactively, not waiting until you find out your kid has been rude or unkind.[/quote]
I’m the giving them grace PP you alluded to. Wasn’t excusing rude behavior. Just pointing out a lighter approach would work better. I’ve worked at a school and seen one too many teachers scolding the kids. Doesn’t seem like they like the students and it seems dehumanizing. There must be a better way.

Like those scolding teachers, or my scary neighbor, OP seems to have a way about her which she may have passed to her DS, and these boys may be reacting to it in an unfiltered way. All speculative.[/quote]

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