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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t think it would be a huge issue in theory to have one since you’re Latina but the issue is since [b]you’re not from a country that does these[/b] you and your daughter aren’t embedded in the culture in a way that will create a real quince for her. Your friends and family don’t know or care about the traditions, they’ll just think it’s a birthday party, so the end result will not be what Hispanic girls who have quinces experience, which are a HUGE deal and entail special traditions. I don’t think it’s even problematic if you try to have one, I just don’t think it’ll be the same. Would be like someone trying to have a New Orleans first line after a funeral here, with people who had never heard of it and don’t get the meaning or tradition. Would probably fall flat. [/quote] See replies above from other Brazilians. It is done in her country but she is not familiar with them. I wonder why her DD is asking for this---friends? is she trying to connect with part of her culture? If I were OP, I would explore reasoning behind her DD's request. [/quote] If - as you put it - “she is not familiar,” then it is NOT her culture! That means it is cultural appropriation. It only does she need to say no to DD, this is a teachable moment where she can educate her child about toxic cultural appropriation.[/quote]
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