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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes.

When SFIL who is a pediatrician cornered me and told me that in his ‘clinical opinion’, S had autism even though I informed him that he had had a multidisciplinary evaluation due to a speech delay and his doctors concluded that they did not think he was at that time.

18 years later, S is neurotypical although he did need speech therapy to help with articulation until he was 5.

SFIL has kept his mouth shut ever since.[/quote]

He was just trying to help, PP. I suspected my son had autism when he was a toddler, we had him evaluated several times and every time they diagnosed him with ADHD and learning disorders but were not entirely sure about the autism... until at 17, when doing one last evaluation to get accommodations for college, the psychologist diagnosed him with autism, in addition to the ADHD. Luckily, I had sent him to social skills groups and autism-friendly speech and occupational therapy for years, which is what he needed anyway.

Your SFIL stopped making comments because he saw that in your mind, autism is something to be ashamed of. You shouldn't think like that. It hurts all the families who really do have autism in their families, and who may struggle with taboos that end up impeding diagnosis and treatment for their children. Often the line between autism, speech issues and ADHD is VERY VAGUE (most kids with autism have attention problems and speech delays), so his comment to you is not at all out of left field, and not something to be offended about.

I hope you can remember that next time you see him.

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Nope. That was 16 years ago. I didn’t ask for his opinion. I explained what his actual doctors said.

Everyone with a medical degree would know that it takes more than a meal with a two year old to diagnose autism. Also, sharing nosy personal opinions is rude even if you have a specific degree.[/quote]

Nosy personal opinions about his grandson???!!!!  You have a different idea of family than I do.[/quote]

NP. And? So? Yes, people have different views about what crossing a boundary is or isn't. That's why the polite thing to do is keep your personal opinions to yourself unless ASKED for advice. [/quote]

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