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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the age where sports begin to get competitive, grade six. My son loves his particular sport and is good at it but is not apparently part of the "cool" clique of kids who also play, who are exceptionally good. He is not being played as often by the coach (who is, apparently the parent of a "cool" kid), has been told by other players that he doesn't deserve to be on the team, isn't getting the ball as much, et cetera. Basically he feels excluded by a sport he enjoys and kids who are nicer/don't trash talk do not play the sport, so he is left either playing alone or participating on a team where he feels unwelcome. And it is past the age where everyone has to get "along." Over break son found out a bunch of kids from the team went to a certain camp, he also went, they all carpooled and he ended up coming home in tears because they trash talked him. But it seems too old for a parent to step in (not to mention would raise the ire of the kids). Any advice on how to handle this sports trash talk and clique-ness? [/quote]

1. It's not okay but perhaps you can't do anything about it.
2. Sadly this might just be a teaching moment. Some kids suck at times, and you can't take it personally, find better friends.
3. Parent coaches are the worst. 
4. Middle school sucks, some kids hit puberty early and think they are great at sports when in actuality they just have more testosterone. 
5. Kids, people... need to learn how to handle trash talk, sadly it's just another skill, does he have an older cousin or neighbor if your H can't teach him. 
6. My son went through something similar, it sucked but he is the only one from that former team playing in college, so it's not really about ability all the time. Sometimes coaches suck, sometimes kids suck... guess what that will also happen in HS and college and at work and with your neighbors. It's a good time to find ways to ignore, walk away, deflect... but often (like a job) you can't just quit. 
7. You could approach the coach but he is also a parent, perhaps he has a heart, perhaps not. 
8. Not every "cool kid" is a jerk, perhaps there is someone on the inside who can be a friend and buffer the jerks. [/quote]

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