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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. Just chiming in I have the same problems with my DH. My solution has been to just overfunction and expect very little from
DH. But that has led to severe burnout for me. After 10 years, I reached my own limit on managing my career, the kids, and the house as well as DH. I ended up quitting my job because I truly couldn’t do it anymore. Now we are in a terrible position financially and I am unsure what happens next but I couldn’t keep going like before. I think we will likely divorce but it scares me to think of my kids alone with DH.[/quote]

What a mess.

To quit your job because you have a deadweight husband? 
Hope he makes $1m+ a year. [/quote]

I'd get looking if I was the PP, men like this are not reliable earners, the executive function issues are at work, too. I'd never put my ability to feed and house kids at such risk. Outsource, downsize and simplify, but start earning. Otherwise you have put yourself and kids in a huge bind and then you can't leave.

IME often 2 people with ADD marry one another. So one may try to compensate for the other but is also weaker in exec functions than average. Really pays to get evals, meds and coaching and to have a periodic organizer, etc. The issues won't just show up in DH but in kids, too. The ADDitude website has a lot of helpful info too. [/quote]

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