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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mine come first.  Why have kids if they don’t come first?   [/quote]

+1.  I have and will continue to do so.

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Your kids will move on. Hope you didn't sacrifice your marital relationship. [/quote]

If you have a good marriage, both will put the kids first.  My parents put each other before us.  Then, they divorce when I was an adult.  The strained relationship became more strained.  Now as a parent, it was clear I was never a priority and I cannot imagine doing that to mine. [b] Our lives revolve around ours[/b] and we are happy to do it.  We get pleasure in watching them enjoy their passions.  [/quote]

That clearly seems unhealthy.  It is also a Tiger Mom phrase which I assume you are.

The vast majority of Tiger Moms have nothing going on in their lives and now are trying to live vicariously through their kids.[/quote]

Really?  The tiger moms in my circle are doctors, lawyers, and professors (I think the most famous tiger mom is a Yale law school professor).  Women who have high standards for themselves generally do for their children as well.  [/quote]

They probably aren't Tiger Moms...just Asian.  You need to separate the two.  None of my 2nd generation Asian friends are Tiger parents...they were Tigered themselves and hated it.[/quote]

This is me. You got that right! Anti-tiger mom here![/quote]

What does that mean?  If you let your daughter try figure skating (a sport with many Asians and tiger moms), and she falls in love with it and wants to practice three hours a day before school, do you deny her?  Or does that mean you just don't push your kids to do things they don't really want to do?  [/quote]

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