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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for all the advice.

I'm applying to all sorts of jobs, but none directly in my field, because there are systemic problems in the field that aren't going to be much better anywhere else. It's been really hard to admit that to myself, because I love the work I do, but the field as a whole doesn't pay and doesn't have the resources to support staff. All of the organizations in my field are chronically understaffed. For example, I've gotten tens of thousands of dollars in grant money for my organization, but the granters want to fund events, not people, so getting the grants means adding more programming to my already-full plate without helping to fund, say, another employee to help plan and execute the programs. If I were staying in my field, I'm sure I could have gotten a job by now, as my resume in this very specific thing is pretty good. DH and I have talked about how I don't want to be in this field anymore and that changing fields might take longer and he's on board with me directing my attention to other opportunities. But I think he and I both misjudged how long it would realistically take to even just get interviews. Again, I have crossover skills in programming and event planning, development/fundraising, volunteer management, and communications (though for comms, it's just something I've done for years with no formal training and that seems to be a real roadblock).

I am networking and people love to be helpful. I've had lots of conversations, but most of them have ended with "the market is slow; give it time."

I've shown my resume and cover letter template to friends who are recruiters and to friends who hire and made adjustments based on their suggestions.

If it comes to July 1 and I still don't have a job, I should be able to get unemployment, but my organization is small and non-profit and there's no way they have a severance package.

I just don't know what else to do about our relationship. I'm continuing to look for and apply for jobs. I've finally had some interviews. I can't go back in time and have hidden my social media and I can't go back in time and apply for jobs 4 years ago.[/quote]

Another idea is applying for roles in your field, but in a different department.  Sounds like you do programs now.  Apply for comms roles, work there for a couple years then apply for comms roles at other organizations.

Also, plenty of people would be a good fit, but an organization is getting hundreds of applications, so they cant interview everyone who would be a good fit.

Apply early!  At my organization after 30 days of a job being up I get sent a list of everyone who applied and start looking (i specifically ask HR and any sort of AI thing they might use not do any sort of sorting first, I want to read everyone).  But many hiring managers don't do it this way.  Some people I know start looking at applications within the first 2 weeks a post is up.  Unless it is government or something that specifically states we cannot read applications until x date, try and apply within the first 2 weeks a posting is open.  If you see one now that looks good and it has been up 4 weeks, apply now, but don't push good positions and wait and apply weeks later.  Better to do it ASAP. [/quote]

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