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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is your current financial situation? Can you carry your current lifestyle and expenses on his salary alone?

Or Is his anxiety justified that you are going to be in a financial pinch and need to talk about making changes?

I don’t think the advice to put your head in the sand or telling him to not be anxious or telling you to no longer give him information is going to help anyone. He can do some job searching too and send you links of option. Why not work together to address this and acknowledge that it’s stressful for everyone - especially if he isn’t a really high earner or you don’t have months of living expenses saved.

Go read other threads where one spouse has lost their job. The spouse writing the post is often quite anxious and constantly wanting their spouse to get work. He isn’t an anomaly in any way. [/quote]
We could get by for a little while (6 months to a year, depending on how much spending we cut, though really we're not big spenders as it is), but he's in public service, so we need my income long-term. I'm also really anxious about this and it's hard not to get demoralized putting in applications and just hearing nothing.

He struggles with needing everything to have a reason AND with not being in control of stressful situations, so this is like his worst nightmare, since we don't have a reason behind why I'm not getting interviews and he can't apply for jobs for me. He needs somewhere to direct his anxiety and, unfortunately, I'm the natural target.[/quote]

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