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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I complied with a request like OP's before having sex with my last gf.  She and I had gotten to know each other over many months after a mutual friend introduced us.  She was a great match in many ways but we turned out not to be a great match sexually.  I guess I'm glad I tried but i wish I knew what the sex would be like before I jumped onto such a serious relationship.  Half the time we'd start to kiss and [b]nothing would happen on my end without a lot of effort.  We just didn't have good chemistry[/b].  I finally broke up with her after several months.  Knowing what I know now, I wish we had stayed ",just friends."[/quote]

So sex shouldn't require much, or any "effort"? I wonder how much you actually communicated with each other about sex. I mean specific and direct communication, as in, telling each other what to do, asking each other about preferences, and actually enjoying figuring things out together. So many people -- both men and women -- just expect it to happen magically and expect the other person to be "a great match sexually" but don't want to work at sex. And if you actually like, or dare I say love, the other person, well, the "working" on figuring out the best sex between you isn't work at all. When sex is THE end goal and top priority of course you just move on if it's not what you deem ideal. When the relationship as a whole is the priority, sex reflects and supports (not rules) the relationship, and you're both willing to make that "effort." [/quote]

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