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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He wanted sex. You did not. He has not reached out for more than that. This is not going anywhere. Move on.[/quote]

This! A guy interested in you is not going to drop you because you didn’t sleep with him right away (or even a month into things). Guaranteed, OP. Take it from this 45 year old happily married woman who lived it up until her early 30s. No man worth your time is going to leave if you don’t offer sex on his timetable. [/quote]

OP here - I decided not to follow up. I don’t get any satisfaction from ONS, usually takes a month to build it up physically with a partner who is attentive etc.

The fact he didn’t reach out since mid Feb tells me he thinks something is not right for LTR, or his circumstances still don’t allow a LTR.

If he texts me himself (which takes a few seconds), I’ll seize the opportunity and certainly will sleep with him the first evening I see him again. [/quote]

I’m the pp you quoted and now I’m confused. So you DO want to sleep with him? In that case just call him, nothing to lose? I thought you wanted to be exclusive first etc. What changed on your end?[/quote]

Because [b]if he reached first, that would signal to me he’s ready for something more than ONS.[/b] And [b]then I would take the risk [/b]sleeping with him. He already knows me, and that I see him through and don’t buy any BS. He also said in his last message “he could reach back”. He didn’t offer me “feel free to reach back when I’m back on X date”. Maybe he wanted to close the opportunity  for me texting him back that way, and in fact didn’t want to be contacted. I don’t know for sure, but I’ll follow his literal words and will wait for him to reach back.

If I text first - that just feels desperate reach for a hookup (which I don’t need). [/quote]

I’m going to show my age by using this phrase but

That’s crazy talk! You can’t assume anything solely on the basis of whether and when he sends you a measly text. He might just be fishing to see if you’re now desperate enough, which it sounds like you might be.

You’re overthinking and living in your head instead of communicating with people. I don’t see anything good coming out of either of you texting each other, based on your last post quoted above.[/quote]

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